How To Protect Yourself From Divorce
On learning that divorce is imminent, or even if it springs up as a surprise, there is always something one could have done better, had one known - or so, one tends to think in retrospect.
However, this needn't be your story: you can take some precautionary measures to protect yourself, your kids and your economical status should the ugly 'D' word surface in your life. Take a look how:
As far as bank accounts are concerned, you need to take an active interest in maintaining them jointly so you are always atop any glitches or unaccountable spending should it affect your financial interests after divorce; this is especially important in the circumstance that the divorce proceedings are not carried out amicably. Much of the way one decides on handling oneself during a divorce comes through well-intentioned or even ill-given advice of those around, including family and friends but only you can know for certain what you need to survive and how you plan to do it; so you may want to work it out on your own or go along with your spouse with certain suggestions he/she makes regarding working on financial arrangements till the divorce comes through. This makes it easier for things working out without arguing and with least tension.
Consult with a reliable and experienced divorce lawyer so you have the necessary advice on claiming all you need to in order to secure your future (and perhaps that of your kids) as well as learn about how to protect assets you owned, before marriage, including property you owned before marriage or after it (jointly bought with spouse or even by yourself). Keep all related documents in a safe and ready to be presented in court when the need arises; get your
valuables out of the married home into a place of your own so you have a better chance of holding on to them after divorce.
Above all, avoid rushing into marriage and opt for a long engagement period so get to know the person on every level to realize if the potential life partner is someone you can well and truly trust to go the whole nine yards; after all, what better than avoiding divorce all together?